Welcome To The World Independence Ebersol

Holy moly! It’s been 3 months now since Mister Independence Saint James Ebersol (say THAT 3 times fast!!) has come into this world and how things have changed. My world has never felt so fulfilled, fresh and at the same time challenging in new fun (and not so fun ways). Here are a few things I’ve learned so far:

-Being a mom is HARD and also magnificently FULFILLING. It is truly all-consuming. I’m very fortunate to have someone come help twice a week to give me some “me” time but otherwise it is a job you’re never off of. Even when I go to sleep I know within a few hours I’m back on the clock. And then he smiles he huge gummy smile and I realize it’s all so worth it.

(gummy smile:))

-Your husband, even if wonderful, will miss his wife. I’ve been blessed with an incredibly sweet, caring and understanding husband which is why it makes it even harder to deny him err, you know, his needs. When I’ve been on baby duty all day, then make dinner and then am so eager to go to bed it’s hard to rally for that stuff though. That’s time I could be sleeping! Also, things still aren’t pleasant in that department quite yet. I’ve heard friends say it can take about a year to get things functioning correctly again. Plus, your body is biologically wired to not want to have another baby right after you have a baby so it’s not quick to get back in the sack! (we’ll have some cool interviews on this topic soon though so let’s not stress it;))

-Something that many people told me while I was pregnant was to enjoy every moment and not wish it away because it goes by so fast. This is one thing I can say I’ve truly stuck to and I’m so happy I have. It makes the occasional 3am crying not so bad when you consider how brief this all is and how these tiny little hands and feet are only getting bigger with each passing day.

-Trust YOUR instincts. One thing about being a mom is you will meet lots of other moms who will have advice for you or you may just see other moms raising their babies very differently from yours. It’s so easy (especially when you’re sleep deprived) to think you’re doing it all wrong. In those moments I try and check in with me and baby and really get the full picture. Sometimes there is something to learn from others but other times the way we’re doing our thing works best for us. I’ve been trying to keep an open mind but then ultimately doing what feels most right for me and baby Indy. There’s certainly a groove and flow that you can get into with your baby and when I stay in that we’re both happiest.

-Have a support group. Whether it’s a yoga class with baby or just your closest friends and family, having other people around is helpful for your own sanity. The coos of your baby are adorable but sometimes it’s nice to have adult conversation. Indy has some big fans amongst our friends who I always invite over to hang. He loves spending time with them and I get to see my friends who I’d hang out with if I didn’t have a baby anyway. You’ll be surprised how many friends who don’t have babies yet are more than happy to come hang with yours (and even hold them while you go get some stuff done). If you’re in Los Angeles, UMA Mother is also a great resource. They offer semi-private yoga classes for you and your baby where you actually get in an amazing workout, baby gets sleepy, you don’t have to sing “wheels on the bus” and you leave more personally fulfilled, relaxed and calm.

The Fancy Mama has a big year ahead! I’m so excited to jump back into this thing with all of you. I’ll continue to share our journey (please share yours in the comments too!) and stay tuned for lots of great interviews with experts to help make this whole mom thing even MORE rewarding for us all! Until next time…xo